The following resources can provide support during the birth of your baby:
Types of Loss including:
- every kind of miscarriage
- fatal diagnosis, carrying to term
- elective abortion & alternatives
- stillbirth (home, hospital)
- loss after ART/medically assisted conception
- multiple losses
- ending fertility in loss
- getting pregnant again
~Birth Methods, including:
- medicinal induction
- vaginal delivery
- Cesarean birth
Real, printable birth plans for every kind of loss, including bonding with your baby, how to bathe a stillborn baby, and more.
~Get support around you:
- Find Doulas/Photographers (including certified SBD doulas) This link also connects to birth plans and is a very important link.
- Birth Education & Preparation
- Birth, NICU & Bereavement Resources by location
- What an SBD Doula can offer
Baby & Family Specific:
- questions about baby’s skin, physical condition or appearance
- holding, swaddling, photographing baby and family (including siblings)
- bathing a stillborn baby
- prints, molds, other keepsakes
- deciding between your farewell options during labor or immediately postpartum can feel jarring and traumatic. Having a supportive team who has relationships within the community and who speak with validating language is important.
- one of the hardest experiences for the family is the actual time the baby’s physical form is carried away by a provider affiliated with the farewell: this could be a nurse bringing the baby to the hospital morgue, or a funeral home staff member placing baby in a box, or the couple leaving the birthing room with the baby’s physical form still there. Being aware of this is the only way to even begin to soften such trauma. Having the option to hold one of the blankets that once touched baby, or clothing that has, or a teddy bear, may be a way to brave through such an impossible transition.
Farewell Celebrations (resources, laws, and information for ways to say goodbye, keepsakes, jewelry and more)
Read stories from others (and share yours) – just visit the right sidebar, and see them labeled by week and by additional circumstances.
~More information and support:
- Baby Names
- Love Cupboard (physical needs such as clothing for mom or baby)
- NICU – specific support prior to, during and after birth
- Emotional/Spiritual Support (including for the dad & surviving children)
- Crisis Lines, Books, Websites (some by country)
- Information for Friends/Family
- Let your providers know that stillbirthday has resources for them (there are printable resources for you to present to them through our Connections tab, in our Local Representative section)