Love Wildly Pittsburgh

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 REGISTRATION NOW OPEN!

We’re bringing Love Wildly to Pittsburgh!

{ The When }

Friday, November 6

  • {check in / arrive 3pm}
  • Love Wildly Registration table opens at 5:30pm {receive Welcome Packet}
  • Men’s event:  7pm – 8:30pm

Saturday, November 7

  • Love Wildly morning check-in / gather at 7:30am
  • Ladies breakfast begins at 8am
  • First ladies session starts 8:45am
  • Break 10am-10:15am
  • Session transitions into lunch time
  • PIZZA PARTY!  All Love Wildly moms and family invited {12:30pm – 1:30pm}
  • Afternoon session 1:45pm – 3:30pm
  • prep break 3:30pm – 4:45pm
  • LOVE WILDLY CEREMONY!  5pm – 6pm
  • conclusion, depart for your own dinner, and release to Love Wildly

{ The Where }

Hilton Garden Inn, Cranberry PA
2000 Garden View Lane | Cranberry Township Pennsylvania 16066

  • You can visit their website and choose if you’ll like to reserve one night or two.  If reserving Friday night only, you can easily check out at their designated time on Saturday and still be able to participate in all of the Love Wildly events, and the same is true if you’ll prefer to check in only on Saturday.
  • You can utilize our facebook event page if you’ll like to partner up to arrange carpooling or room sharing.
  • Pittsburgh International Airport also has a maps page with airport and baggage claim info

{ The Who }

Love Wildly Pittsburgh will be led by Heidi Faith of stillbirthday and is hosted by The Promise – Pittsburgh’s Perinatal Palliative Care Initiative.  Follow The Promise on facebook or visit their website to learn more of the precious ways they come alongside families to offer tangible love.

{ The What }

Love Wildly is a global paradigm movement established by stillbirthday to reach firstly mothers as well as spouses, siblings, and others in our trust circles, of all cultures, continents and circumstances to reinforce the truth that grief is messy but the griefholder is beautiful, that the chasm is dark but the worn heart of the bereaved holds light, life and love.  To Love Wildly is to believe that you are precious, valuable, and treasured even against all accusations, attacks, betrayals and condemnation that – even self-inflicted – seem to thrust you into the imprisonment of the engulfing shadows of guilt, doubt, and shame.  To dare to believe that you are worthy of love, even when such belief seems the most ridiculous or radical.  To speak love upon your soul even when it doesn’t make sense.

Stay tuned here for more updates!

{ Register Here }

Register for Love Wildly Pittsburgh!  Receive a lovely, especially selected jewelry set, a womb wrap, and more!  Registration for this extraordinary, healing, refreshing, inspiring event, pizza party and all gifts included is $100!  And we’ve got some cool stuff in store for your man too if he’ll like to enjoy the weekend with you!

{ Sponsor / Payments }

You can make increments as low as $25 toward your registration!  Simply use the payment button and complete the form to allow an electronic tracking of payments.  Once your full tuition is complete you’ll be completely registered!

 

{ The Registered }

  • Heather K – $25
  • Alison D – fully registered!
  • Karen T – fully registered!
  • Crystal N – fully registered!
  • Crystal N – fully registered!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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There are no refunds for partial or complete payments,
as funding is immediately applied toward event related expenses.

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Love Wildly Cradle Mountain

We’re bringing Love Wildly to Cradle Mountain, Australia!

 

 

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November, 2016

 

Where is Cradle Mountain?
See the very bottom of the world map, there just under Australia?  See that purple heart?
That’s Tasmania, an island state of Australia.  Near the center of this heart island,
set in the wilderness, is a gorgeous retreat waiting for you, at Cradle Mountain.

What a precious place to learn how to Love Wildly.

When:  Thursday, November 3 to Friday, November 4, 2016  {a year from now!}

WhereCradle Mountain Lodge

Refunds: because payments secure the hotel group rate, there are no refunds once payment is made.  Registration automatically waives all liability of stillbirthday in all event planning and participation.

Photography: we will have professional photography, and by registering you agree to allow permission to be included in photography

Accommodations:

Hotel Check In: 2pm Thursday

Hotel Check Out: 10am Friday (you can always choose to reserve a second night for yourself after the retreat ends!)

We will utilize the King Billy suite for our event, and one Spa Family Cabin and one Spa Suite Family Cabin, allowing a maximum total of 8 attendees.

A random drawing will be made for sleep arrangements, as between the two Family Cabins are one Queen, one King, and four twin size beds.  Two moms will need to share each of the larger beds, so registering with a friend is a brilliant idea.

This will make for a very special, intimate gathering of Love Wildly mothers. Please arrange for childcare or other needs that can take away from the intention of a very focused, relaxing weekend.

Private Group access to the therapeutic spa area named the Sanctuary.

The hotel restaurant can be utilized for meals.

Keepsakes & Events:

Special keepsakes valued at over $200 will be gifted to each Love Wildly attendee.  Special activities will fill our lovely time together, with optional pauses for reflection as well.

 

 

Registration: $425

 

 

Smaller Payments

Do you prefer to make payments toward your registration? You can in as simple as $25 increments!

 

 

Love Wildly Melbourne

We’re bringing Love Wildly to Melbourne, Australia!

 

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 November, 2016

When:  Saturday, November 5 to Sunday, November 6, 2016  {a year from now!}

WhereCrowne Plaza

Host: Willow’s Touch, Ballarat Bereavement Doula

Refunds: because payments secure the hotel group rate, there are no refunds once payment is made

Photography: we will have professional photography, and by registering you agree to allow permission to be included in photography

Accommodations:

Hotel Check In: 2pm Saturday

Hotel Check Out: 11am Sunday

Each room is furnished with a twin bed and couch.  Bring your spouse for a romantic evening or attend solo for a focused time of refreshment.  Please arrange for childcare or other needs that can take away from the intention of a very focused, relaxing weekend.

A special meal will be provided by the hotel for Saturday night dinner, for every attendee and one guest.

Keepsakes & Events:

Special keepsakes valued at over $200 will be gifted to each Love Wildly attendee.  Special activities will fill our lovely time together, with optional pauses for reflection as well.

 

Registration:  $350

 

 

Smaller Payments

Do you prefer to make payments toward your registration?  You can in as simple as $25 increments!

 

Individual Sponsorship

Would you like to receive the financial support of your loved ones to make this event possible for you?  Often times loved ones desire to pour love into your bereavement but aren’t always sure how to do so.  Stillbirthday is an internationally respected organization providing support prior to, during and after birth in any trimester.  Our Love Wildly retreat is a specially tailored event that weaves universal principles of care with the unique, individual aspects that make your story so precious and important.  You can use the form at the bottom of the page to enter your name, and when it’s published, your loved ones can contribute toward your registration.

 

“Layaway” Registration

  • $25, Jodie Moss

 

 

October 25 Remembrance

It’s today!

 

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Thank you so very much to Jen Cantrell, SBD for capturing this photo of OUR FLAG flying over the US Capitol on October 25, 2014 in honor of Proclamation 5890!

Please click here to read Proclamation 5890.

Remembering Proclamation 5890

Families all over the world who have been personally impacted by pregnancy and infant loss gather to hold vigils throughout the month of October, and most especially on October 15, a day known as International Remembrance day.

October was declared Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month in 1988 by then President Ronald Reagan.

So stillbirthday, with help from Missouri Senator Roy Blunt and Senator Claire McCaskill, is arranging for an American flag to be flown over the United States capitol on October 25, the date that Proclamation 5890 was signed.

Thank you, President Reagan, for honoring all families impacted by pregnancy and infant loss.

Please click here to read Proclamation 5890.

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Links:

 

A mother experiences a pregnancy and infant loss literally every minute in the United States, many occurring at approximately 12 weeks gestation.  The approximate size of baby in utero at 12 weeks gestation is about the size of a plum.  If the number of American losses annually were represented in plums, laid side by side across the US capitol grounds (approximately 2 miles) it would take 24 rows of plums lined fully across the entire grounds.

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The pink & blue ribbon, for Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness & Remembrance

The M0M Center

The M0M Center is stillbirthday headquarters, and you are invited to visit.

 

The name of the center is M {zero} M, but this post is labeled as M {oh} M to help you navigate correctly.

www.stillbirthday.info/the-m0m-center

www.facebook.com/m0mcenter

 

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Unconditional Love

Contributed by: Deana Ruston, SBD

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This song makes me wonder—and maybe even just a little helps me realize—what it’s like for a family finding out their baby has a life limiting diagnosis. Not everyone experiences the same emotions, but this song speaks volumes to me about the unconditional love a family has for their precious child.

Vividly taking us inside to hear what emotions and thoughts a Mother may have, this song is such an voice to families facing imaginable pain and heartbreak. Their world, which may have been of cheer and happiness, may be clouded with hurt and sorrow. Some may worry about getting too close to their child, only for them to not survive outside the womb. What heartbreak these families face. These children are worthy and we love them no matter what. We want you too, to be free and love your child no matter what. Please, open up and let the love grow—we’re here for you. There others here who have walked this path, you are not alone and we’re ready when you are. Take a seat, grab a cozy blanket and breathe. It is all okay. We are here now.

This song to me is an anthem. Katy Perry has brought to the forefront emotions experienced by families all around the world. Our unconditional love for our families, no matter what, is so, so important.

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What is Death Midwifery?

The global community of birth professionals continue to wrap love around the Gaskin family, and it is a time many of us who are birth doulas or birth midwives are drawing the parallels, some for the first time, between supporting during birth, and supporting during death.

But, there is a need for a clarification of terms, so I’d like to explain those.  Let’s step out of birth and death altogether for a moment and I’ll compare these terms to a life event that also has parallels – a wedding.

Maid/Matron of Honor – someone who provides emotional and moral support.  Someone who listens to you, assess what needs you might have, and presents you with options to choose from.  This person is most commonly a “she”, but, yours may not be; for our example she will be.  You can call her at midnight to tell her that you’re scared, or excited, or both, and she’ll remind you that no matter what, she is with you.  That you can do this.  She’ll remind you of your strengths, remind of your support, and she’ll rally the team together to strengthen and support you.  And if she’s really good, she’ll also have many of the same skills as your wedding planner.  If you’re not already super close before your big day, you’ll probably be close because of it.  That’s a doula.

Justice of Peace/Preacher/Chaplain – on the beautiful day, this is the person you stand in front of to deliver your commitment as a unit.  You pick this person out beforehand, making sure they see your vision and that they’re a good match for it.  You agree on the date, and you meet together.  You stand before this person on your big day.  You are the one making the vow, not this person.  But this person is essential in making sure your vow actually happens.  That’s a midwife.

Courthouse – let’s just toss this in there because even though it’s not the fun part, it is a formality.  Does your beloved have a criminal record?  Are you agreeing to a prenuptual agreement?  Do you file taxes?  The fine print.  The stuff that takes all the pretty out of your day and puts it into documentation.  The legal stuff.  For extreme simplicity’s sake, we’ll call that the hospital, the doctors, and/or the laws in your area surrounding your birthing choices.

I just don’t want the value of what Ina May Gaskin has brought to the birthing choices of mothers to become diluted as I’m seeing the mistakes in droves as people are comparing her experience right now to death midwifery, but doing so by erroneously speaking of the role of a “death midwife” as “bereavement doula“.

Here at stillbirthday, we train and certify both, birth & bereavement doulas, and, what others are calling death midwives – but we call ourselves midwives of thanatology.  So let me address these two terms.

A birth & bereavement doula provides support prior to birth, during birth, during the welcoming, during the farewell, and during the healing journey.  This support is provided in much of the same capacity as our maid of honor, looked at earlier.  You can learn more about our birth & bereavement doula certification program, here.

A midwife of thanatology, also provides support prior to birth, during birth, during the welcoming, during the farewell, and during the healing journey.  In fact, the SBD doula program is a prerequisite into the midwife of thanatology program.  But the midwife of thanatology is comparable to chaplain in the example above, and in fact we call this program our SBD Chaplaincy program.  A midwife of thanatology helps you exert your rights as you prepare for the event of your farewell.  Your local birth midwife knows your local laws regarding where you can birth, with whom, and under what laws.  Your local midwife of thanatology, knows your rights of sepulcher, knows the difference between hospital policy and local law regarding your time with your deceased beloved, knows where you might bury or cremate, and can officiate the farewell, exactly as a chaplain might speak at a funeral.

Let us all understand that birth doula and midwife are not the same, and neither is birth & bereavement doula and midwife of thanatology.  And let us understand that all of these roles are of tremendous value.

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This is what was shared via our facebook page yesterday:

“Ina May Gaskin is in many ways a trailblazer of non-medical childbirth options and is known as a mother of midwifery.
While the world celebrates her contributions to the options in childbirth, facilitating bonding and joy between mothers and newborns, her first birth resulted in her beloved newborn son, Christian, dying in her arms.
I honor Ina May not even for her work, but for her motherhood journey.
Today, everyone who celebrates Ina May for her contributions to birthing choices is gathering to pray and send healing thoughts as it is being reported that her beloved Stephen is nearing his death.
Ina May, I am so sorry for the death of your son, Christian.  Thank you for bringing joy to mothers through your own motherhood experiences, that you see the value of birth intrinsically, the value of mothers loving and connecting with our babies, no matter what, and for finding ways to facilitate that.
May these moments with your beloved Stephen now be filled with significance to you, even joy, and may you be given a space to just authentically honor your journey, free from the scrutiny and publicity that has chased you since your first birth, and may you just find spiritual and emotional rest in these moments as your beloved may be entering his.”

Held by Natalie Grant

Contributed by: Deana

As a part of the SBD News Team

 

The song Held by Natalie Grant is such a powerful song. I don’t know the intended meaning behind this song but this is what it means to me. Natalie is singing about the loss of a baby at 2 months old. She speaks about being held by a higher power, perhaps God, helping her through the pain and grief. She sings of the pain of losing something or someone so sacred and important to her. The grief process is not instant. It takes a lot of time. For her, it’s a nightmare that a baby would die. She doesn’t know why it would happen to someone, it’s unfair. There is a promise that you’ll be loved by those around you. Family, friends, God or another higher power are there to guide you and support you through the tough times. Slowly with time, you see tomorrow. Hope is here. You are held, and loved. Hope comes through the suffering of losing a baby, at any trimester. This song has been the song I listen to during tough times. It always calms me down and brings me back to God, and remember I am strong and can get through anything. We at Stillbirthday are here for you. We’ll hold you and support you in any way that we can.

 

 What does the song Held mean to you?

Deana is a thanatology student at King’s University College, in London, Canada. She would like to work with families who have experienced prenatal, infant loss and pregnancy in any trimester. Starting in January 2014, she will begin her Stillbirthday Doula training.

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I Love You Photos

If you are looking for a creative way to express your love for your baby(ies), we have a beautiful project opportunity for you to be a part of.

To begin, you can choose from either 2 yards of I Love You ribbon, or 1 I Love You feather.

{Update: only 2 feathers left and the ribbon has all been sold.}

This alone is a precious keepsake – just look at the gorgeousness!

 

Choose to either have one feather, or two yards of ribbon. 




Then, after you have your I Love You ribbon or feather, you can take a photo of it, showing how it is depicting your message of love.

Consider just a few of the many ways to say I Love You with either item:

  • You, saying I Love You to your baby.
  • Your baby, saying I Love You to you.
  • Your baby, saying I Love You to their siblings.

Share your I Love You photo that includes your ribbon or feather, and when you do, one person’s photo will be randomly selected for this gorgeous, customizable, cast iron Love Lock that also comes with a key.

About the Love Lock:

Did you long to have a personal and meaningful farewell celebration in your baby’s honor?  This heavy, durable, and real working Love Lock is customized and can have your baby’s name, or anything else special to you, painted onto it.  Here are a couple of things you can do with this special lock and key duo:

  • You can keep them together.
  • You can bury the lock in a beautifully special place to you.  And you can hold on to the key.
  • You can affix the real, working, cast iron {heavy and durable} lock to a symbolic structure such as a fence or post, and you can bury, toss or treasure the key.  This is an old custom called Love Locks.

This lock and key duo is valued at over $50.

We will take the first 5 feather photos and the first 5 ribbon photos for this opportunity, with one photo selected.

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