Remembrance Fruit

Today I shared this photo on our stillbirthday facebook page, and it’s sparked an opportunity that you might want to be part of.

To show awareness to pregnancy and infant loss, you can purchase the fruit that closest represents the age or size of your beloved baby when he or she died or was born.

fruit

 

Here’s a chart just as an idea:

 

4 Weeks

Poppy Seed

 

6 Weeks

Sweet Pea

8 Weeks

Raspberry

 

10 Weeks

Prune

 

12 Weeks

Plum

 

14 Weeks

Lemon

 

16 Weeks

Avocado

18 Weeks

Sweet Potato

20 Weeks

Mango

 

22 Weeks

Papaya

 

24 Weeks

Cantaloupe

 

26 Weeks

Lettuce

 

28 Weeks

Eggplant

 

30 Weeks

Pineapple

 

32 Weeks

Squash

 

34 Weeks

Coconut

36 Weeks

Honeydew Melon

 

38 Weeks

Small Pumpkin

 

40 Weeks

Small Watermelon

 

 

 

 

 

Post Loss Lactation Tattoo

 

tattoo

 

“esta madre se tatua en el pecho a su bebe que fallecio me dejo sin palabras”

translation:

“Tattoo on this mother nursing her baby who passed away left me speechless.”

This photo (source*) was shared with stillbirthday by the amazing mother and doula, Gena Kirby, at Progressive Parenting.

You can visit our milksharing map for more resources on post loss lactation.

 

 

 

*The original source has had a watermarking/authorship debate and whether it is a true tattoo.  This brings up a valuable point for bereaved parents that deciding on a tattoo – even the smallest one – is a commitment.  Tattoos do not equate a higher level of love, but instead are merely a single opportunity, of many, to express our love.   The photo is shared by stillbirthday as an opportunity to demonstrate a powerful message – and that message is this – post-loss lactation is a very real representation of our very real baby.  It is something we can nurture in whatever lactation decisions we make, including cessation or donation.

 

 

 

 

 

Fly Away

Being pregnant and learning that your baby is no longer alive can be such an enormous mix of feelings, that articulating how you feel with words can seem insufficient.

This is a powerful image that depicts the ripping from us that we may feel, while also depicting that our baby still has value, still has beauty, still has transformed into something important and even beautiful.

flyaway

Single Parenthood

This Impossible Time

When Mother Earth is Pregnant

It is just profound, the similarities between a person embedded within the womb and a person buried in the earth.

This amazing piece is called “Healing Sleep”.

Which does this represent to you?

 

 

{photo source}

Waiting to Exhale

Pregnancy after loss is often called a “rainbow pregnancy”, although you might not see the color just yet.

It can feel quite a lot like “Please, just get us both through this alive.”

It can feel like you’re waiting to exhale.

For encouragement and strength for your journey, please visit our Getting Pregnant Again resources, articles and stories.

 

 

Sending Love

This is a very powerful image, and I’m sharing it because it also has a very powerful message.
I want to bring your attention to the “e” in the photo.  Do you see that tiny little knot?  That tiny little knot can turn out to be a devastatingly and catastrophically big deal.
“Cord related accidents” have brought many, many of us here on this journey of bereavement.
What I want to point out about this tiny little knot, is that it doesn’t stop the message – to your baby, or to us, seeing this photo.
And that message is, love.

She is a Mother

Click here for more guidance for loved ones.

Rainbow Announcements

How do you announce your subsequent pregnancy?

Here is one idea:

photo source is not bereavement related