I’ve written about Elizabeth here at stillbirthday before.
Elizabeth, was a very old woman. She waited a very, long time to become pregnant. When she did, she remained in seclusion until her fifth month of pregnancy. And I’ve shared why I believe this is.
To the world,
When you tell me to get over my loss, when you define it for me, when you try to take it away from me, it feels as though not only has my child died, but it feels as if you want me to believe my child never lived. In short, not only did I lose my child, but your empty platitudes serve to threaten my motherhood.
In grief, I can related to Elizabeth hiding, until it was absolutely apparent that she was a mother.
You have an opportunity to invite mothers out into the community to share the pain, the beauty and the power of their motherhood. They’ve already lost a child. Don’t try to take away their motherhood.
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