Long Term Healing/Perspectives

Stillbirthday Birth & Bereavement Diversity

This section of stillbirthday provides bereavement support specific to:

gender, age, religion/faith, culture, & other diverse groups.

To add a resource, simply leave a comment below.

~Healing Resources Specific to Fathers:

This is an important section for mothers to see as well.

Dads, please share your experiences with us here!
Read stillbirthday stories from other dads, by clicking “Dads” in the right sidebar of this site, under the pregnancy weeks. These are stories shared here by other dads.
Men Have Needs Through Pregnancy Loss
Tips for Meeting Her Needs
The Postpartum Husband is a helpful book in meeting her needs
Fathers Grieving is a Facebook group
Freedom Truth and Bread blog
Grieving Dads website
Isabella’s Daddy blog
Charlie’s Leaf blog
Father’s Grief blog
Dazed Dad Online Reflections
A blog for Fathers
“Daddys with Angels” is a Facebook group
“Fathers of Angels” is a Facebook group
“Grieving Fathers” is a Facebook group
Dadz Club has a listing of shared stories from dads
Men and Miscarriage is a printable leaflet
Miscarriages Hurt Men Too – blog and book
I HATE THIS a play
Miscarriages Hurt Men Too is a book for purchasing
A Bereaved Father – Steve Younis (mens grief)
Swallowed by a Snake – Thomas R. Golden (mens grief)
Butterbean – Brandon Roberts PhD (mens grief)
A Man You Know is Grieving – Thomas R. Golden (mens grief)
WebHealing is a website run by Thomas R. Golden that has mens grief information
Noah’s Dad – a blog not about loss, but about parenting a son with Down’s Syndrome

Mentorship Program for Fathers

Consider the stillbirthday mentorship program.

Keepsakes for Fathers

You might want to visit our keepsakes section

~{General} Healing Resources:

“Niche” Support

While many aspects of bereavement and healing are universal, we have support resources listed especially for the type of experience you’ve had. Just use our “types of loss” section to gather those resources.

Children, Teens and Grief

Childrens resources

Groups, Counselors and Programs for Bereavement (by location)

Locate resources within your community

“Timetables” for Grief

Grief in the First Year

Grief and Social Networking

Identifying & Understanding aspects of Bereavement

Similar and/or Compounding Issues to Grief

Mood Disorders (checklists)
SBD Recommended Books on Postpartum Mood Disorders
Postpartum Mood Disorders
Postpartum Mood Disorders (videos)
Postpartum Depression
Postpartum Psychosis
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
Sudden Cessation of Lactation
Complicated Grief
Spiritual Warfare in Grief
Anxiety, Panic, PTSD (online program)
Mother’sToolkit (emotional support)

Creativity through Bereavement

Crafting is such a healing activity, we have a whole section for tutorials
SBD Circles activities include: Claim the Space, Love Letters to My Body, Womandalas, and more
Invisible Pregnancy activities
Beauty in the Breakdown
Everything Pretty
Writing Your Baby’s Name
Glow in the Woods
Painting
Photography
Photography 2
Exhale
Scrapbooking
Artwork
Writing (Sheila is also a loss mom)
Public Street Art
These ideas and more are available through our Farewell Celebrations section

Finding Intentional Joy

It is important to know that you can laugh again, and that it’s not a dishonor to your lost child. Plan intentional activities that you have always found to be enjoyable – watching your favorite movie, eating at your favorite restaurant, shopping at your favorite store. Be safe, and let yourself hear your laughter or feel yourself really smile.

Invisible Pregnancy book & Mothers Workshops based on the book, written by Heidi Faith!

Holidays

The Beginning of the End (Christmas)
Handling Holiday Grief (Parts 1-6, Christmas, outside link)

Books, Crisis Hotlines and other Long Term Resources

Books and Other Resources

Sexual and Intimate Relationship After Loss

Miscarriage effects on sexual relationship

Alternative Family Resources:

Loss after ART
Lesbian Miscarriage
Lesbian Miscarriage Support Group
Dr. Deb Rich, specializing in lesbian perinatal psychology

~Cultural & Spiritual Resources:

Cultural and Spiritual Farewell Custom Resources – please visit our Farewell Celebrations section

Cultural and Spiritual Bereavement Resources

Baha’i
Christian
Chinese
Japanese
Native American
Native American Poems
Asian American
African American
Haitian American
Hispanic American
European American
Jewish Observances
Roman Catholic Observances
Protestant Observances
Islamic Traditions
Islam/Muslim Grief
Spiritual Practices (book)
SBD Birth & Bereavement Diversity Awareness
Stillbirthday Mothers Workshops feature a “Mother Roasting” that some cultures believe positively impact both fertility and postpartum healing

Alternative Therapies:

“EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) is a simple tapping technique that allows you to relieve distress by gently tapping on certain acupressure points on your body while focusing on the particular issue.

With pregnancy loss, we may also be feeling trauma, anger, guilt, and fear in addition to normal grief. EFT will not get rid of normal grief, but it can help release unnecessary distress, so that you aren’t so weighed down and are able to move through the stages of grief more easily.

A few sessions with an experienced EFT practitioner can be helpful & give you the tools you need to help yourself when the waves of grief feel overwhelming. EFT can also be helpful for your partner and any family members who need support with their feelings.” - Sondra Rose

Sondra Rose, trained EFT practitioner
Janet Field (Hypnotherapy, EFT, meditative music)
Jeanice Barcelo (Jin Shin, EFT)

Agnostic/Atheist Resources:

Baby Loss Support for Agnostic & Atheist Moms (on Facebook)
Kota Press
Grief Beyond Belief
Pregnancy & Infant Loss Spirit/Energy Readings
Pregnancy & Infant Loss Channeling
Tanner’s Energy Reading
Birth Verse (language tailored to living newborn)
AstroBaby (language tailored to living newborn: there aren’t natal charts for babies not born alive, only “event” charts)
Pagan Priestess Angil Dix-Moon (email@AngilTheDoula.com)
The Amethyst Network holds a collection of articles that are diverse honoring

Shop:

We have a listing of special momentos, charms, books and other merchandise especially created in honor of various cultures, religions and beliefs, including alternative healing stones, pagan spells and more in our momentos section.

~Two Invitations

Heidi Faith, the site creator, is Christian, and through her grief identified many valuable truths in the Bible pertaining to the many complicated and important experiences and questions regarding loss. You can read them in our devotionals section, or obtain a Bible for free.

Share Your Story!

If you have utilized any of these diversity resources, perspectives and activities listed in the section above and would like to let other families know about them, please consider joining the SBD news team or sharing your special story here at stillbirthday. It will also be held in the section of diversity stories. Or, simply leave a comment in our birth and bereavement diversity invitation article.

We want to gather information on diversity in birth and bereavement.